Tuesday, May 14, 2013

Counterproductive?

So my words for this year were Home and completion. One of the other things I'm working on this year is dating. I am actively doing eharmony - going onto the site, initiating communication, working the program, responding to anyone who was not completely repugnant. Which leads me to this ponderence... if I'm working on buying a house in less than 2 months, am I somehow defeating the whole dating thing? Since, theoretically, my goal is to find a husband and get married, am I just assuming the whole thing won't work out by buying my house? Given my track record with men, this is a reasonable assumption. Should I spend another year as an apartment dweller just in case? And see, that's the real reason I'm going forward with my house buying - I don't have more time to waste waiting for my life to happen the way I want it to. I just reread Jonathan Tropper's book "This is where I leave you" and a quote from the book really resonated with me - "I'm too old to have this much nothing." I feel like that a lot of the time. I'm almost 40 and what do I have to show for it?

4 comments:

katey911 said...

Do for you, girl. There are no guarantees in life, so do what makes you happy in the present. I don't think the two are related at all. Making one part of your life more complete will make you happier and more attractive to future hubby. Sitting around waiting for him to appear won't.

Lyndsy said...

I totally understand your thought process. But you also know how I think about stuff like this. If you're meant to meet a guy and you having a house isn't compatible with that, you won't find what you're looking for.

The Universe has a way of making things work out like that.

Ms. Chick said...

I know how you feel, and don't worry. Buy a house if you really want. It's an investment. I agree with everything Katey said. Life can change in a moment. Make yourself happy.

Kathy said...

I found you through Pintester, and scrolling back through your posts is like scrolling back through the past few years of my life to the point where I have to comment: First, buy the house - I went through this same thought process, but finally bought a house 4 years ago and am so glad I did. It is nice to have a place of your own. Second, I often wondered if I'd be able to be in a relationship as well because I'd been on my own for 10+ years and liked my space and was stuck in my ways, and while I still am not in a relationship, I've had a close male friend as a roommate for the past year now (which surprisingly leads to many of the same issues as I recall from serious relationships) and, it is doable to make that adjustment. When you find someone you want to spend time with, it will work.
GOOD LUCK! (for me too, have the house, but still would like a relationship, but as like you, would rather be alone than with someone not right)